first abject failure in our international treats box. sorry dutch friends, if you love these i could mail you the rest. otherwise i’m going to bury them in the yard.
the best i can offer dads is: if you’re present, and you’re trying, then you’re doing a good job. none of this is easy.
in my own life, by the time i was my kids age, my father was gone, lost to cancer. and my mom working constantly. i possess no real memories of my dad.
tomorrow is father’s day and i wanted to send a shout out to all the other dads with depression who constantly question whether they’re doing a good job and routinely doubt that they’re a positive influence on their kids lives and future.
torn between: - traveling to attend my high school reunion* - being so sick of the hateful nonsense i’ve seen some of my old classmates post on facebook for the last four years, i’m just glad i moved far away as soon as i could
the interesting thing about this is that the ipad detects that the native resolution of the monitor is 3440x1440 and centers its mirrored display in it. in the lower pic i have the screen split on two inputs to 1770x1440 each, but the ipad remains at the native res
every time i set up a new machine i think “okay i’ll let this app send me notifications there might be something useful” and usually within a few days i get spammed repeatedly for the same sale notification or useless nonsense and i turn off notifications again.
my wish for ipadOS is to let this hardware be a real computer. got my M1 ipad pro. hook it up to a keyboard, mouse, trackpad? yes. hook it up to an external display? sure. just …buy a monitor in the right aspect ratio. maddening. (also don’t creep my messy desk)
“oh it’s 11, i could get to bed early for a change”
clean up cups and dishes get coffee pot ready take the dog out turn off lights check the dryer floss and brush pick out clothes for tomorrow get in bed
i’m starting to think that big companies make monoliths because the regulatory overhead of ISO certification and other compliance efforts is too great to perform for many, or even several, smaller applications.
remember at the beginning of quarantine, all the kindness and accommodation we offered each other about working at home distractions and competing priorities and obligations?
welp i just unfriended my cousin on facebook because they post stupid crap about how covid is psyops and wearing masks is dumb. i don’t know how much family i’m going to have left after all this.
what i can say is, when you are approaching a new piece of work, consider how this will contribute to your future of work. how can you steer the ship of your career to end up in a place where you are still enthusiastic, versus tolerating whatever will continue to bring you income
when i was young i was able to find work that was exciting to me and i excelled at. as i got older it shifted to work that tested my ability to tolerate the tedium of managing complexity and mitigating risk. i don’t know how to advise you to avoid following my path, but